Usually what’s written about Men and their prostate is only about the big "C"(prostate cancer). Hence most think of the big "C" when they think about their prostate. Obviously that's not a very comfortable thing to think about, so most men just don't think about their prostate.
I want to change that. I want men to see their prostate as the very essence of themselves, the center of their sexual energy. I want men to see their prostate as sources of pleasure. I want everyman to know exactly what is prostate feels like. I want everyman to experience the amazing sensations that occurs when his prostate is touched.
In other words I want to replace the big "C" with the big "P". I want men to reclaim their prostate as centers of, "P"LEASURE.
You can help me with my Prostate Revolution by adding your prostate story, poem or experience in the box below. Or you can send it by email to dublinerx@yahoo.com

i need help, i need relief! every day is the constant battle with what i want.. and what i beieve is right. In less than a month i will be an 18yr old with a deep secret. im afraid im gay...i hav had a girlfriend for 18 months now and i cant connect with her. being raised a christian and still being one, i am so confused.. streched.. lost..i dont know what to do, or where im at? i live in south brisbane australia and need answers. as all this is the biggest secret of my entire life, i keep discreet. plz help. mitch

Hi Seb, I always enjoy looking at your web site and we have spoken via email before I love my Pantra by the way its great. I have a slight problem I wonder if you can give me some advise. There is a bloke who is married an ex-army living not far from me and he walks his dog about the same time as I do the other morning I noticed that as he approached me down the footpath he was looking down at my crutch.(and I wasnt just hoping that he was ....he was) I know another bloke who lives in the same road as him and he claims he has seen this guy at a well known cruising site near by. My question is how can I get around to maybe talk to him in the hopes that maybe he will play away from home with me?. I dont know if this guy is bi or what but he always talks to me,should I stick a cock ring on inside my jeans in the hope that he will take a look and confirm what I already think about him. Help, please any suggestions from you would be more than welcome. Thanks again Seb and thanks for the website really interesting. Sincerely Mike xx

Hi Seb, I have been checking out your website for a long time, well done mate. I am looking for a sex professional who can help me deal with my Dick’s self love and an unfulfilled longing for almost ritualized wank Magick ceremonies where my Dick can commune with another practiser of Magick. My name is Alan I am 44, slender but with a little belly, a biggish dick with an 8mm Prince Albert and a line of piercings that go from the bottom of It’s shaft along the perineum towards my arse. I think I am quite Tantric without all the mumbo jumbo. I just love the energy that my Dick summons up when it demands to be hard. I get off on breath play too, deep holding of it, having my guts pinched in with a corset or clingfilm so the lungs have to really control themselves. My Dick also loves it when I put elastic bands around my head and look like a freak also it sometimes makes me shove things down my throat til I gag, like tubing and stuff and I have to lube up my throat to help it-I use toothpaste a lot. I have yet to meet someone who can goad me on enough and help me push it down. Got a real thing about my throat being abused. But always there is some element of otherness and I love my Dick. I could play with it all day and keep it happy, and with my piercings, when I wank away at it, it jangles like music.

Now I can pretty much usually fulfil all these desires and often alone but I have a real yearning for something quite ritualized and I was wondering if you could summon up some Sex Magick and indulge me or share some ceremonial indulgence? You seem like a real friendly guy but it is the ceremony that I have always missed and am searching for and I want to please a fellow congregationalist who will encourage me to delve down into something and show them it. By the way would like to share a fantasy i have lately been having imagining you sticking me in a mask, getting a woman in with a shaved cunt who make me lick her out good and hard til her labia dangles onto my tongue like the little dick that it is, all the while you are fucking her up the arse. Anyway would be interested to see if you can help me. By the way I am HIV+ and some people think that because I might play with body fluids I might be unsafe but my blood and my cum and my drool only go on/in me. Respectfully, Alan

mR. cOX, I am an american married male, 52 years old, who has been practicing meditation for the past 25 years. In 1972, when I was 20 years old, I had a spiritual plateau experience. My wife is 40 years old and we both enjoy sharing our most intmate sexual desires with each other. A few years back we had an intimate relationship with another man who was 6 years my wife's junior. He visited us nearly every other Sunday evening for over a year.

It started out being mainly about sex and ended up being much more about exploring the kind of intimacy that requires extraordinary openness and honesty. Like you I realize that the key to experiencing profound awareness, sexual or otherwise, depends almost solely on one's ability to disappear; to forget that "I" exists, to stop thinking, to leave the ego behind since the ego requires thought to exist. The ego is a wonderful tool but a horrible master. When Ram Dass was giving a seminar someone asked him if meditation had transformed him. His surprising reply was something like, "Not at all. Meditation has merely allowed me to become a connoisseur of my own neurosis." I believe that we are only capable of loving and hating others to the degree that we are capable of loving and hating ourself. As you have stated, we can only accept and hug others to the degree that we can accept and hug ourself.

Therefore, I am both fascinated by your web site and a little jealous. Thanks for reminding me that I'm not alone. Also, please let me know if you ever consider opening an overseas office.

Seb, one main reason why I do not love this site is because your assuming someone is gay or straight by what they tell you. If a man enjoyes both men and women he is by nature a bisexual. Anyway you slice it, the deffinition means what it means. No one is going around arguing about how an oak tree should be called something else so why change a simple term that means something very specific. homosexual means you like the same sex, hetero means you like the opposite, and bi means both, its very black and white. I myself could never physically be with a woman, because I am what you would call a homosexual, I also know men who have tried with other men and it didnt work, that would be heterosexuality, and there are reasons for it lol. I just think that its a bit uneducated to say " well, im gay but I like to have a go at it with women every now and then" or " well im a str8 man who likes men on the weekends" when you do it is your own choice, how much you do it is your own choice, but the fact that you do it at all is your desire and that is a part of your sexuality, as much as that might bother some people. the main reason men go and have sex with other men and then say they are straight is because first of all....we buy it and support it, and second, because anything else but the bi or gay lable sounds better to them, its their way of excaping the word because they think it means something negative and they dont want to deal with the burdens and adversity that come along with it. in other words...they are scared of what it means to be a bisexual man. I am only offended because too many people are slapping lables on themselves that do not fit and its like a white guy in 10th grade walking around acting like he is black or like he invented hip hop culture. I can say I am asian till I am blue in the face, but it will never change the fact that I am italian..lol peace.

Hello Seb, my first anal orgasm was about the most earth-shattering thing I'd ever experienced. I'd played about a little with rubbing my ass and inserting a finger or two as part of masturbation but I usually stopped and came by jacking off normally. One day I decided to use my gf's dildo in my ass - I just had an inexplicble urge - so I lubed up and squatted down on the dildo and felt it slide inside me until suddenly I felt a surge of pleasure go right through my cock. I started to slide up and down on the dildo, slowly fucking myself before turning the it on to vibrate - the pleasure flowing from my prostate was fantastic. Instead of sliding up and down the dildo, I just grabbed it with one hand and started fucking my own ass with it and the most intense pleasure built up and built up until I looked down and saw my cock twitch as it shot out a load of thick milky cum! I felt weak and shaken from the intensity of my orgasm and I was so stunned that I'd just come without touching my dick once. Pete

Seb, your site has inspired me and I had always been so turned on by the thought of sucking a mans big hard cock into my mouth but just jacked off to the thought of it until after my divorce. I figured I have to try it and it was scary but more than I ever dreamed it could be.. at first I would just suck him and let him shoot on my chest but to complete my dream I had to taste his cum. That had always been what really turned my on. There is nothing like licking and sucking until he is groaning and pushing his cock down my throat. It tooks some time to get used to having him down my throat when he comes but man is it awsome. I love to keep sucking him and licking his cock clean until he begs me to stop because it feels so good. I also was and am in heaven when a man sucks me off.

I have never had a lady suck me lick a man who knows what he is doing does it. I really loves it when he swallows me and then comes up to me and kisses me and shares my cum with me. It is taking every bit of control to not just stop typing and stroke my 7" of meat thinking of a hot cock in my mouth. It is something you have to try if you had always fantisized about it like me. Go for it or you will never know

Seb, slowly build yourself up to an erection and then stop. Then slowly build yourself up again then stop. Then line yourself up with a table. Take which ever hand is not your wanking hand and use it to press it against the table (this feels really good if you put lube on the flat surface) Rub your hard on with your left and ad slide it back and forth against the table at the same time. This feels amazing! Timmy

Hi Seb, As I have a small collection of cock rings I just had to reply to your request for information.

Why I use a cock ring.

1) I have a average to small cock and a cock ring makes my package look larger when I am dressed.

2) A cock ring gives me a harder more sensitive erection.

3) The increased firmness of my erection when using a cock ring makes anal penitration easier and I have been told more pleasurable for my partner.

4) The feeling of stimulation (manual, oral or anal) is different than that without a cock ring.

5) Orgasm when wearing a cock ring is sometimes delayed b ut always intense.

Types of cock ring.

I first used various types of household items as cock ring subsitutes. Rubber bands, rubber drive belts, velcro straps, metal tubes etc. anything that was tight around my cock when I sliped it over. After one or two close calls I leaned never to used anything that I could not remove if I had to.

My first real manufactured for purpose cock ring was a silicon rubber type. It was comfortable and easy to get on and off but never really right for me (see importance of size). I also tried a metal one and had the same problem and it was not comfortable but did look good. I finally got a leather strap which I found to be the most suitable for my needs. I have since got other leather straps of various designs.

Measuring and size.

As the essence of a cock ring is to constrict the blood flow it has to be the correct size or it will not work. Too loose and there is no effect, too tight and you are in danger of damaging yourself. I have been told that the correct size is where one can just managed to get your little finger into the ring when it is in place and your are erect. Personally I like it a little tighter. My first leather strap had several press studs that could be changed to suit the size you required. This was not bad but i always felt that it could be just a tiny bit tighter or looser.

My favourate leather cockstrap is a plain band with velcro. This means that I can adjust to exactly the size I want and remove it anytime I want.

A note of caution -

A cock strap can maintain an erection far longer than is natural - restricting the blood supply to any part of the body is a bad idea. Should you find that you are unable to remove it seek medical advise ASAP no matter how embarrassing it may be. Overly tight cock rings / straps can cause burst blood vessels and other damage.

Fitting a cock ring.

Cock rings / straps are put on when one is flacid. Velcro straps are easy to wrap around the cock and balls, close and make minor adjustments to position and your erection grows. With a metal or rubber ring, slide it over the penis to the base then pass one ball through the ring followed by the other. Make sure both balls stay through the ring as one can sometimes slip back out before you get fully erect. I don't use my cock ring all the time, its like any toy, play with it, enjoy it and then put it away when you get fed up with it.

My cock ring still has the lingering aroma of a scented massage oil applied by a talented escort called Seb - happy memories. baz